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"Every couple is a world". Every couple faces conflicts, often seeking therapy for unresolved issues. But before delving into individual differences, a common hurdle emerges in initial sessions: a shared problem hindering progress.
In this article we talk about the reasons that prevent couple crises from being resolved. These reasons involve the members of the couple, their emotions, their resentments, their prejudices, their inertia... and make it difficult to implement changes, in such a way that until this immobility, inaction and inability to change each situation is resolved, member of the couple, to get out of their position; It is not possible to work on solutions and therefore, it is not possible to move forward and check if the conflict can be resolved, if the couple has a future or not.
Overcoming Crises to Strengthen Relationships
Conflict is a natural part of any emotional relationship, often manifesting as significant disagreements that test the foundation of a partnership—the couple crisis. While the term may carry a negative connotation, it presents a vital opportunity for reflection and growth.
Avoidance does not build strong relationships; instead, it is through facing and overcoming challenges that bonds are fortified. Within the crucible of a couple crisis lie opportunities for profound self-discovery and understanding.
These moments reveal the intricate dynamics between two individuals, each with their own emotional, behavioral, and cognitive nuances. They provide a unique chance to explore the true essence of the relationship and to deepen mutual understanding.
In essence, a couple crisis serves as a catalyst for self-awareness and, consequently, for the evolution of the relationship itself.
3 Essential Points of Self-knowledge
Knowing Yourself: Take stock of your strengths, weaknesses, and aspirations. What are your talents and passions? What goals do you aim to achieve, and how do you plan to reach them?
Accepting Yourself: Embrace your identity and individuality. Are you at peace with who you are? It's not about settling or resignation but about recognizing your worth and striving for self-improvement where necessary.
Taking Responsibility: Own your decisions and actions. Are you in charge of your life's direction? Avoid the trap of relinquishing control to others, including your partner. By assuming responsibility, you empower yourself to shape your destiny and avoid placing blame elsewhere.
As you embark on this journey of self-discovery, remember these words of wisdom: "The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be." — Ralph Waldo Emerson. What steps will you take to deepen your self-awareness and enrich your relationships?
Factors that May Lead to Conflicts
Up to this point I have talked to you about some aspects that are essential to face couple conflicts: the capabilities of each person and the will to manage them. But it is true that a couple is two individuals with their own biographies, experiences and personalities, who interact and contrast needs, desires, objectives... In this sense, we must consider problems as normal situations that will appear and must be handled, in the same way that we handle the other difficulties in life.
In any case, it is very convenient to know how to adjust expectations, to be aware of the numerous possibilities of couple conflicts occurring.
The Foundations of a Strong Relationship
Undoubtedly, many of us can relate to the challenges outlined in this extensive list. It reaffirms the notion that conflicts are a normal part of relationships. What truly matters is erecting sturdy pillars to support our partnership.
Trust
Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. It involves trusting your partner's reliability, honesty, and intentions. Trust allows partners to feel secure and confident in their relationship, thereby promoting openness and vulnerability. Building trust requires consistent communication, reliability, and integrity.
Eroticism
"Let desire for your partner flow freely, like a sweet indulgence." Eroticism encompasses the sensual and sexual facets of a relationship, involving physical attraction, intimacy, and sexual compatibility. Fostering sexual desire involves exploring each other's needs, nurturing physical affection, and prioritizing intimacy to sustain a fulfilling sexual connection.
Exploring techniques like foreplay and incorporating interactive sex toys can yield unexpected and exciting outcomes in your sexual experiences.
Friendship.
Caring
Caring encompasses compassion, empathy, and support within a relationship. It involves showing kindness, consideration, and affection towards your partner. Caring means actively listening, offering comfort during difficult times, and being supportive of each other's goals and aspirations. It's about prioritizing your partner's well-being and nurturing a nurturing and loving environment within the relationship.
When a couple possesses these foundational elements—trust, sexual desire, camaraderie, and empathy—they can engage in reflection, negotiation, decision-making, and goal-setting together. This collaborative process allows them to harmonize their desires, needs, and responsibilities, both within the relationship and the family unit.
However, couples with weakened or damaged pillars must focus on repair. A lack of trust, desire, or empathy can lead to profound and persistent emotional distress. This emotional turmoil often gives rise to feelings of pride, anger, betrayal, disappointment, or helplessness, hindering the search for solutions and perpetuating conflicts.
Conclusions
It's important to acknowledge that every couple, regardless of strength or longevity, will face challenges and conflicts. Some problems may be fleeting and easily resolved, while others may be persistent and require patience and perseverance. However, it is in facing and overcoming these obstacles together that the strength and depth of the relationship emerge.
