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Incorporating toys into solo or partnered sexual experiences can always lead to more enjoyable outcomes. When I introduce sex toys into my sex life, my goal is to stimulate more pleasure, not replace the pleasure I already have. However, for some people, the idea of introducing sex toys can be daunting because of the stigma surrounding them. Even if you already own a variety of toys, the best practice is to ask yourself or your partner what range of additional stimulation and pleasure they are comfortable giving and receiving. Never assume that everyone is on the same page.
Choosing a sex toy together with your partner as a form of foreplay is, in itself, an excellent way to start. This allows all partners to express their consent and needs when purchasing a toy. I will introduce you to some of my favorite toys that are great for use with a partner, covering everything from massage oils to anal toys. It’s important to note that my aim is to enhance pleasure, not to make orgasm the goal, and to always obtain enthusiastic consent from your partner before deciding on which toys to use.
Massage Oils: Enhancing Intimacy and Sensuality
First, I recommend massage oils because they are a very intimate and sensual way to enhance the experience. Essential oils and scents are very subjective and depend on personal preference and your mood that day. When choosing a massage oil, be aware that if you use flavored products, avoid placing them near the vulva and vagina as they may cause irritation and pH imbalance. If you are prone to yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis, it is recommended to avoid using flavored oils and lubricants near the vulva and vagina.
Magic Wands: Multifunctional Pleasure Tools
Next, I want to introduce classic magic wands. If your budget allows, you can opt for a fancier wand, which is usually longer and more convenient to use. These toys come in both wired and wireless versions, so you can choose based on your preference. If you choose a wired version, always check that the cord length is appropriate for where you are using it, or make sure you have an extension cord on hand. If you choose a cordless version, you definitely need to give Magic Zenith a try. This cordless waterproof massager is a new luxury vibrator from Magic Motion. Its large massage head can cover a significant area of the body, making it easily accessible. What's more, it’s a smart toy connected to an app. In addition to 10 built-in manual vibration modes, you can use the latest app to allow your partner to control your pleasure. How exciting!
Anal Toys: Enhancing Pleasure
Finally, I would like to recommend some of my favorite anal toys, suitable for those with a prostate and for those who enjoy the feeling of fullness during vaginal penetration. Personally, I don’t have a prostate, but I always recommend a hands-free prostate massager. You can enhance the stimulation by adding a vibrating toy to the external base of the massager. Anal stimulation often involves role-playing! Choose an anal plug with a shape and function that will delight both you and your partner.
Conclusion
If you’ve made it this far, I hope this article serves as an intimate form of foreplay leading to the co-purchase of a pleasure toy with your partner. Introducing toys requires communication and consent from both parties.
By understanding and respecting each other's needs and boundaries, toys can bring unprecedented fun and pleasure to your intimate relationship.
