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For many couples, you might wonder how to add more excitement to a long-term relationship. In fact, there are many ways to bring new life into your relationship, and one highly favored strategy is exploring sexual experiences outside the bedroom. This not only allows you to try different scenarios and environments but also incorporates the excitement of remote-controlled adult toys. One partner holds the remote, while the other enjoys the sensory stimulation. Of course, you can enjoy the thrill of remote-controlled orgasms in the privacy of your bedroom, but if you’re willing to take this game outside, it can get even more exciting! Here’s what you need to know.
Why Changing the Environment Can Spice Up Your Sex Life
Even if your general activities don’t change, simply altering the environment can bring a fresh feeling to your sex life. This shows how the brain is our biggest sex organ, and a different setting can stimulate even more sensory experiences. Adding toys into the mix can further heighten the physical and mental sensations. If you’re into it, this kind of play can also introduce elements of control and power dynamics, or even a sense of exhibitionism (or at least the illusion of it).
Adding excitement to long-term relationships isn’t difficult; the key is to make sure you’re both on the same page. Both partners need to enthusiastically agree to explore new things, which helps you communicate smoothly and enjoy new experiences. If you feel like there’s a barrier to this, you might consider seeking advice from a sex therapist or reading some blogs on sexual well-being, helping you move toward a more exciting future together.
Long-Distance Fun: Keep the Sparks Flying
Remote-controlled adult toys are perfect for long-distance couples. Even if you’re miles apart, these toys allow you to share pleasure and orgasms. Whether you use remote-controlled toys that can be synchronized, or one partner holds the remote to surprise and delight the other, these toys help couples stay connected and maintain intimacy.
Play Safe, Not Sorry: Sex in Public
We’re not suggesting that you engage in public sexual behavior, as random passersby haven’t consented to it, and in many places, public sexual activity is illegal. Additionally, public play could upset bystanders or even encourage others to join in without consent. So, for a safe and spicy experience, you should choose appropriate locations.
Some people who enjoy public play choose remote locations where the chance of being seen is minimal, while others prefer places that allow this kind of activity, such as sex parties or other venues dedicated to public sexual behavior. There are also those who are discreet, choosing noisy clubs or dance parties where remote-controlled panties or insertable toys can be enjoyed without being noticed.
If you want to experience the thrill without taking real risks, you can recreate the sensation through dirty talk or fantasy. When you create a story together in private, your imagination can make it as exciting as any public performance.
New Experiences in a Hotel
When you’re traveling or simply spending a night away for a date, checking into a hotel can give you the thrill of a new environment. Does the hotel have large windows? Even better! Even if no one can see you, if it excites you, you can imagine that everyone in the building across the way is watching. If you want to add more excitement, pretend to meet each other for the first time at the hotel bar and spark a new sexual adventure.
Intimate Moments in the Garden or Backyard
If your backyard or garden offers enough privacy, it can become your personal fantasy playground. Of course, before you indulge, make sure the neighbors can’t peek down from upstairs, and be mindful of avoiding any poisonous plants.
Changing the Time and Style of Interaction
Simply changing the time of day you engage with each other can refresh your sexual experience. Try getting playful in the afternoon instead of at night, or experiment with weekday mornings instead of weekends. Changing your timing can help break the routine and keep things interesting. You can also add role play, flirt and tease when your partner least expects it, or use toys and play a game of Truth or Dare for extra fun.
Another way to bring in novelty is for one partner to wear a remote-controlled toy (such as a panty vibrator, an insertable toy, or a remote-controlled cock ring) while the other controls the remote. This kind of play can bring unexpected bursts of pleasure into your everyday life.
Playing with Your Remote-Controlled Sex Toys
Nothing says “I miss you” more than a remote-controlled sex toy session over the internet! No matter how far apart you are, app-controlled toys let you share pleasure and orgasms anytime, anywhere. You can pair them with phone sex or video chats to deepen emotional and sexual intimacy.
If you enjoy the thrill of public play, take your toys out into the world – but choose a private place or a club where you won’t draw too much attention. If being watched excites you, consider attending a sex party or other places where voyeurism and exhibitionism are welcomed.
Risks and Precautions of Public Sex
When planning to engage in public play, always agree on a “safe word” in advance. If either partner feels scared or uncomfortable about being exposed, you should be able to stop immediately.
Don’t engage in sexual behavior where non-consenting people can see you. Remember, consent involves everyone present, and anyone who can see or hear you becomes part of the scene. Be mindful of boundaries to avoid moral or legal issues related to public sexual activity.
Before taking toys out for public play, it’s a good idea to practice at home first—are the toys noisy? Can the wearer climax without drawing attention? Stealthy sex is fun, but you might need a bit of practice to master it.
