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Introduction
The most difficult part of long-distance relationships is missing your partner when you're apart... The question we're frequently asked is "How do I cope with the distance?" Even though I've been in a long-distance relationship for years, it's still challenging to deal with the pain of separation...
Here are some tips for coping with distance.
Keep Yourself Busy
This might be the most important advice we can offer you. The worst thing you can do is sit there missing your partner. Keeping yourself busy prevents feeling so down! Yes, finding the motivation to leave your room might be difficult, but if you don't, you'll only make the time apart harder.
Establish a Daily Routine
This complements the previous advice - create a daily or weekly routine. For example, choose one day of the week to go to your favorite restaurant, see a friend, or simply go to a coffee shop for a cup of coffee. Having something to look forward to every day keeps you happy!
Plan Online Dates
Yes, it's a bit cheesy, but who doesn't love romance? This requires some planning - discuss it with your partner. Set a day when both of you have time for an online date. You can plan to eat at the same time, watch a movie together on Netflix, or just sit and chat. The possibilities for dates are endless - just think about what you both enjoy, and ideas will come to you!
Avoid Excessive Communication
In short, if you're talking 24/7, eventually you'll run out of things to say. Moreover (as scary as it sounds), you might just get bored of your partner. If you're too involved with their every move, things will start to get boring, and you might lose interest or vice versa.
Don't be afraid to Get Naughty
Some might feel uncomfortable with this advice. It's not mandatory, but it definitely helps keep the relationship lively. You can try on some sexy clothes for your partner over Skype, using various sex toys, such as the rabbit tail Butt Plug, I guess you have heard of such beautiful and interesting things, right? Or you can engage in a "late-night" call (you know what we mean...) - Whatever you're most comfortable with. Getting your partner excited feels good!
Be Honest
If your partner is doing something that makes you uncomfortable (for example, going out clubbing every night, or hanging out with someone of the opposite sex they have a history with), you need to be honest and tell them how you feel. If you bottle up your emotions, one day you'll explode, and all your emotions will come pouring out, possibly leading to a fight. You and your partner need to set boundaries of what you're both okay with.
Dr. Guldner, founder of the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships, emphasizes the importance of communication in LDRs: "Communication is the glue that holds a long-distance relationship together, and without it, it can quickly fall apart."
Plan Your Next Visit
One of the best feelings is knowing the next time you'll be reunited with your partner. As difficult as it can be, try to figure out the next time you will see each other. Once you do, you can start counting down the days and get excited every day as it gets closer!
Spend Time with Friends and Family
As suggested, keeping yourself busy is crucial. One of the most effective ways is to immerse yourself in the company of friends and family. Surrounding yourself with loved ones not only distracts from your desire for a partner, but also provides emotional support and a sense of belonging.
Stay Positive
This doesn't need much explanation, but don't be a negative person! If you're constantly thinking negatively, you'll become more and more down. Emit positive energy and think about the positives that come out of your relationship, rather than the negatives.
Video Chat
Throughout the day, stay connected with your partner... Don't overdo it! A few times a day, video chat with your partner and remind them of how much you love them!
Conclusion
We can't guarantee that being apart will be easy, but as long as you're both committed for the long haul, you can overcome the distance! Applying these tips will strengthen your relationship and bring you and your partner closer together.
Let us know if you have any other tips on how you cope with long distance!